Recently, when asked about his weekend, a colleague mentioned that he had taken a self-care day. This detail was met with a good deal of banter from coworkers. One person joked, “What did you do, go to a spa and get your nails done?”
But self-care, a frequently misunderstood concept, is no laughing matter. Numerous studies have indicated that practising it improves psychological wellbeing as well as physical health. Research also shows that failing to make self-nourishment a priority is related to higher levels of burnout and stress symptoms. “Self-care is giving the world the best of you instead of what’s left of you,” writes mental health blogger Katie Reed, on why the practice is far removed from the sensitive snowflake stereotype.
So, how do you actually practice it to reap the benefits? The key is that the activity or ritual you choose takes you out of rumination to fully embody the present moment. For one person, it might be meditation or going for a run. For another, it could involve going for a facial and a pedicure. But remember, there’s a big difference between doing something that is genuinely restorative and doing it just to generate attention on social media. And if, like me, the idea of being prodded and pummeled by a stranger is your worst nightmare, nourishing yourself might involve a creative pursuit such as painting, inventing a new recipe or going for a photo walk in nature.
I have found that one of the best rituals to get into a mindful state is making photo books. It all started several years ago after I received a surprise parcel in the post – a beautifully printed book featuring treasured memories of a group writing retreat, when ten of us had spent a week together at a chateau in France. As we all lived on different continents, it was unlikely that we’d ever meet up again. One participant had the great idea to curate all of our images into a colorful volume. I treasure it to this day.